For years, long before it was popular, I saw myself as “pro-gay”. My brother (full disclosure: who ended up dying of AIDS) was a homosexual and living in NYC I knew plenty of gay people and, you know, I was for them, not agin them.
And yet, and yet. And yet I never could see homosexuality as being the same, or equivalent to heterosexuality. Heterosexual intercourse, or some gross scientifically enhanced simile is the ONLY way that the one overriding miracle of life as we know it can occur. It is only via heterosexual intercourse that a new human can be formed, developed and birthed. (and hey, I hope you respect my respect for science in that last sentence and if you don’t, well fie on you!)
So, that’s the yucky part.
Now, to their credit today the gays would like us all to focus on the non-yucky part. Well, the part that girls and gays find non-yucky anyway, I think those awful he-men types might tend to differ. The hearts and flowers, the love forever, the soul-mate stuff.
All well and good.
But yet, but yet.
How short ago was it that we who are NOT in the gay community were being implored “just leave us alone in the bedroom”?
To which most people, I’d guess at a minimum 80% of people said: OK, no problem, you got it!
And then it quickly became “celebrate and validate our love!”
To which most people, I’d guess a minimum of 60% of people said: Say what?
This has sort of changed me from a “pro-gay” person to an “anti-gay-rights” person, and I am not enjoying that at all.
Why were not civil unions adequate? Because gays need to have society say: your relationships are the same as man/woman relationships?
But they are not, and no amount of law passing and litigating is going to make them so.
It is a sad quest for validation that can never come, even if a semblance of it is compelled by law.